Laura, 25, from California, asks: I am dating this guy. And things were going great for a while. I am hopelessly in love with him and I thought it was the same way for him. At least he used to be. Anyways he has become really distant in the past month or so. I don't think he is cheating. He is under a lot of stress. He tells me he loves me all the time, and most days even when he is in a bad mood I can see it in his eyes when he looks at me. I just want him to be the way he was. How can I try to make this happen without offending him? And how am I suppose to deal with this?

VictorM's advice: His feelings for you may not have changed, but how he shows them has. To him, he's already proved to you that he loves you; therefore he doesn't have to keep doing it because, well, you should already know. He might even fear that if he did the same things he did before that you'd be pissed that he's too repetitive. See the traps we guys have to deal with?

Will any guy sustain the level of attention in a mature relationship that he did at first? Well, if there's such an oddball creature lurking on this planet, he's like a man Angelina Jolie couldn't get -- rare!

The only way I know you can get things as before is going out with a new guy every other month. If you think you'll find a man that matches this phantom character of your imagination that can keep going like the Energizer Bunny, you're going to be sorely mistaken and disappointed.

You have a guy that you can see in his eyes loves you. Frankly, you have a gold mine.

How to get some of that excitement back? Start by not accusing and not pressuring. Then accept that if YOU want something YOU have to do the work. So, if you two used to picnic under the moonlight, say to him that YOU miss those and YOU have planned one.

Oh, and ask him what he found exciting about you that you don't do anymore. I'll bet you that even if you can't see it, there will be plenty of those things too. (Tip: ask him more than once because the first time around he's going to say "nothing", but he's just being lazy or lying).