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Monday, December 26, 2005
I don't want to disobey my parents but...
arianna jackson, 15, from: Sacremento,CA asks: I am 15 and my boyfriend is 20. I know my parents wouldn't approve of this but we really like each other. They think that since he is 20 he would be only after only 1 thing: sex, but he's not. He hasn't even mentioned having sex with me in our conversations, and he respects me highly. And his mother and my mother have become the best of friends, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to disobey my parents but I want to choose who I want to love at the same time.
VictorM's advice: If you want to do the right thing, you recognize that at 15 your parents have a say in much of your life. By objecting to someones age they aren't telling you who to love, just saying not yet.
I assume that you have not actually talk to your parents about this so you're just guessing what their reaction will be. This may be a case of it being easier to get forgiveness than to get approval. By that I mean, if you're seeing him now and your parents haven't specifically told you not to see him, you're not disobeying them -- I'd keep it that way. However, if you want to be able to see him freely, with their consent, you should tell them and hope for the best. Remember, the answer is always "no" if you never ask.
VictorM's advice: If you want to do the right thing, you recognize that at 15 your parents have a say in much of your life. By objecting to someones age they aren't telling you who to love, just saying not yet.
I assume that you have not actually talk to your parents about this so you're just guessing what their reaction will be. This may be a case of it being easier to get forgiveness than to get approval. By that I mean, if you're seeing him now and your parents haven't specifically told you not to see him, you're not disobeying them -- I'd keep it that way. However, if you want to be able to see him freely, with their consent, you should tell them and hope for the best. Remember, the answer is always "no" if you never ask.
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I know what you're going through. I can tell you this from experience... DO NOT LIE TO YOUR PARENTS, IT'LL COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU. Seriously. Sit down with your parents, tell them all that you just wrote and tell them how you feel. Maybe invite him to be a part of the conversation. You have one good thing - your mom and his mom are friends. Being honest is the only way to go. Sure, things might not go as you hoped but one day you'll see their side. Or maybe things will go great.
Victor is right (of course!). But also keep in mind that a 20 year old should NOT have much, if anything, in common with a 15 year old. He should be almost out of college and you cannot even drive yet. Be wary if he is looking for a sexual relationship.
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