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Monday, December 19, 2005
Husband not talking
Pam, 23, from media, asks: My husband has not spoken to me since Tuesday of last week. Regardless of the reason, which by the way was a misunderstanding on his part, isn't he wrong to cut off all communication? Do I go on ignoring him and only speaking to him when I have to or what?
VictorM's advice: Short answers: Yes, he's wrong. Yes, you ignore him.
Now, longer answer: Your husband is acting very immature. No matter how bad the cause of the rift, there is no excuse for not communicating. Obviously he's angry at you and if you hang around him like a puppy wanting him to talk, that gives him all the control and encourages his behavior (which right now is like a child). If you don't make a fuss, he'll either start talking to you or he'll get angrier. But if he gets angrier and you're not paying attention to him, he'll have to talk to you even if it's just to fight because he needs you to know he's angry. But that's a good start. Fighting with words is better than fighting with silence.
Of course, you'll probably wanna duct tape his mouth shut once he starts yelling, but hey, you can't have everything.
VictorM's advice: Short answers: Yes, he's wrong. Yes, you ignore him.
Now, longer answer: Your husband is acting very immature. No matter how bad the cause of the rift, there is no excuse for not communicating. Obviously he's angry at you and if you hang around him like a puppy wanting him to talk, that gives him all the control and encourages his behavior (which right now is like a child). If you don't make a fuss, he'll either start talking to you or he'll get angrier. But if he gets angrier and you're not paying attention to him, he'll have to talk to you even if it's just to fight because he needs you to know he's angry. But that's a good start. Fighting with words is better than fighting with silence.
Of course, you'll probably wanna duct tape his mouth shut once he starts yelling, but hey, you can't have everything.
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i'm all for peace & love, so if i were you, i'd start a causal talk to him as if nothing had happened, like talk about your day at work or something. if he keeps his silence, then tell him you don't wanna live like that, you guys are married for christsake! you two definetely need to communicate. communication is essential in a marriage and if he doesn't start it, then you should start, no matter who was wrong to begin with.
Hey Pam,
Why not just ask him and try to have a conversation with him?
Cheers,
Napoleon Will's blog
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Why not just ask him and try to have a conversation with him?
Cheers,
Napoleon Will's blog
Feel free to email with questions or comments
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