Emma, 28, from FL, asks: I'm happily married and we have a child together. But I've recently learned that my husband has an obsession with pornography. I suddenly feel... useless and unwanted. I even fear that although my husband says he loves me and that he is very happy in our relationship that he will look elsewhere for sex. Does an obsession with porn lead to infidelity? I am very scared about this and would love your opinion. Thank you!

VictorM's advice: For men, the relationship between the feelings of love and physical sex is flimsy at best. Yes, I believe he can be in love with you regardless of his attraction to porn. And no, I don't believe that by itself his porn habits will lead to infidelity.

Porn feeds into a desire for fantasy much more than a desire for physical contact. He has the porn stars to feed his fantasies and you to feed his physical needs. Don't correlate him watching porn with him not wanting you. In fact, in many instances men use the porn to fulfill fantasies that they think are too demeaning for their partner. I know, it sounds strange, but there's an element of respect there.

Don't get me wrong. Having a porn obsession is not a good thing. If I were you, I wouldn't encourage it and I wouldn't condone it. It could be a phase that will pass or it could be his way of dealing with aging (guys get into their 30's and all kinds of wacky things happen). Either way, I hope for your sake that it's temporary because obsessions are never a good thing, and porn is not exception.