Anonymous, 16, from Michigan, asks: I have a guy friend that I have been friends with for almost three years now. I've liked him since I met him. The problem is I can't tell him. I'm afraid to. Mine and his parents both want us to date (that's not the only reason I want to.) Sometimes I feel like he likes me too but then other times I'm not too sure. One of my friends likes him on and off again. she doesnt know that I like him though. The only people that know I like him are people that don't know him. I really like him. How do I tell him?

VictorM's advice: You DON'T! Don't tell him; you'll regret it if you do.

Sometimes you think he likes you, sometimes you don't. That's because he's scoping girls out and his attention is bouncing all over the place. The moment you tell him you like him, he'll keep you aside for a rainy day and will try to see if he can score with other girls. The male ego takes over. He's not yet sold on you, and if you tell him you like him it will only mean you pose no challenge to him. He needs challenges.

Be a challenge! Stay his friend but tease him to make him chase you. You have to do two things at once: make him work for you and make him feel special around you. How do you do that? You turn down an invitation or two to be with him. When you are with him, praise him but in subtle ways, and you ask questions about things he loves to talk about. Then you stay away a little again. You have to make him wonder if you like him. That's the best way to tilt him in your direction.