Mary, 16, from Salem, Oregon, asks: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two months now, and his anti-social behaviours have been really getting on my nerves. When we do hangout it's so much fun, we have great chemistry and we get along really well. But lately especially it seems like he's been avoiding me. When I call, he doesn't want to talk really, when I want to hangout he always has an excuse. It seems like he only ever wants to see me when HE feels like it, even though I do things with him when I don't really want to. Why doesn't he want to see me? I really don't think I'm being too overbearing or anything, so is it my fault or is it just his problem?

VictorM's advice: You're in no position to say whether or not you're overbearing -- he is. It's a subjective call. Different people have different tolerance for how other people come across. Judging by his behavior, he probably disagrees with your assessment.

But this whole thing is not a matter of fault; it's just a matter of two people going out and seeing if they are a good fit. Some people are accomodating (you) and others aren't (him). There's no right or wrong; it's a difference in behavior that you either adjust to or you don't.

You should talk to him, not in terms of right or wrong, but in terms of your feelings and your preference. How he reacts should give you a clue as to whether it's time to move on.