joyce, 44, from wv, asks: I am a 44 year old married woman. I fell for a 48 year old man during a separation with my husband. He told me he loved me and wanted to make me his wife. I was the best thing he had ever found. He lives 1,000 miles away and has a young boy whom he says he has to stay close to but never sees because the child's mother won't let him. He would call every day, sometimes several times daily. Then down to once a day. All along saying he would be up to visit "real soon". It's been 4 months. Most recently I spoke with him, he said he would call back later that night, haven't heard yet. What do you call that?
p.s. When we were together he found excuses not to have sex, and when he actually attempted it, it was obvious there was some kind of problem.

VictorM's advice: He probably was sincere when he praised you and told you he loved you. But time, distance, and bruised ego (his sexual problems) have all combined to cool his engines off. His son is just an excuse that keeps him grounded where he is, but only because he's not ready for a serious relationship.

His sexual problem could be a major reason for his attitude -- it's quite humiliating for a man to not be able to perform. If only he was willing to do something about it, things could be different. After all, in the age of Viagra that problem can be alleviated.

I doubt there's anything you can do to change things. My advice is for you to look closer to home next time.