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Feedback submitted by Kendra, 43, San Diego:

When I read this question it brought back so many memories and not good ones either. A few years ago, when I got divorced, my daughter was 14. Like Karina, she made it a point to want to help me find dates. But no matter how much I tried to tell her that I wasn't interested in dating at that time she wouldn't give up.

She asked school teachers, her friends' fathers who were divorced, and even talked to men on the mall to ask them if they were single. More than once I was home relaxing and she brought a man for me to meet. I was livid. I knew she meant well but she was getting on my nerves.

I had just come off a divorce. I didn't want to date. I wanted to be with girlfriends, family, and spend time alone, which I almost never did when I was married. I wanted to be man-free for a while. After many fights she finally gave up but it strained our relationship too much.

Karina honey, your mom is a grown woman. She raised you and she can take care of herself. I know you want to help but your mom doesn't need this kind of help from you. If you want to help her, do stuff with her she likes to do. But don't try to be a matchmaker.

VictorM's comment: I think Kendra said it all. I have one additional comment for Karina: It's possible that you hear your mom talking to friends about how hard it is to find a good date. That doesn't mean she needs help -- yours or anyone else's. She's probably just venting her frustrations, past or present. And even if she's not sure where to go, as Kendra said, she's a grown woman and part of her new single life is finding her way around. Even if she's lost for a little while that's OK, that's how people learn.

My advice: let your mom figure out her own romantic life and you start worrying about finding good dates for yourself. Your time is just around the corner.