Jared, 19 from Evergreen, WA asks:

I'm a pretty non traditional guy. I'm very thin, I like literature more than sports, and I'm not aggressive or macho. Typically, women say that those are GOOD qualities, but I’ve found all women (yes, all) women enjoy macho guys...guys who act, well...dominant. How do I meet women interested in a guy who doesn't want to act like a traditional man?

Emilie’s Advice:

Hi, Jared. You seem to be a smart guy with a lot to offer. It’s not true that ALL women want a macho guy. But, in my experience, women don’t want a pushover either. It’s fine to be sensitive, into the fine arts, and sweet. But most women don’t want to feel like they would have to protect you if you got mugged. I have a feeling that you’re just “looking for love in all the wrong places”. If you want to find a girl who likes you for you, don’t look for her at a sports bar, a dance club or a frat party. Look for her at a book club, a cooking class or the theatre. Join clubs and classes that interest you, and you’re probably going to find a lady who shares the same interests. Good luck!