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Wednesday, December 14, 2005
DATE FROM HELL: Slightly less than normal
Tara, 19, from Illinois, writes:
I once went on a date with a guy I had only seen around campus. He seemed nice enough, so when he introduced himself to me and asked me to dinner and a movie, I happily obliged. During the course of dinner, I started getting the impression that he was slightly less than normal.
Some of the getting-to-know-you questions he asked were just a bit off-base. He caught me totally off-guard asking questions such as “What do you look for in a significant other?” and “What kinds of activities did you do with your last boyfriend?” He proceeded to inquire about what kinds of things I did for fun with friends, and then badgered me about why I did different things with my ex-boyfriend than I did with my friends. It was rather awkward to me, but since I'd already agreed to go to the movie as well, I did.
Much to my surprise, the movie was one that he owned and we were going to watch it at his place. This seemed weird, but not dangerous as he and I lived in the same building, him only one floor above me, it turned out. Throughout the horrible b-rated love story, he analyzed the characters motives and gave vivid descriptions of what he would and would not like in a girl he was dating. At the close of the movie, I was desperately trying to find escape, but his questions did not cease.
I was trying to be tolerant, but he finally pushed me over the edge with “Why have all of your relationships failed?”. If that wasn't bad enough, when I awkwardly replied “Um, because they weren't meant to be,” he accused me of trying to “cop out” of the real answer and declared that I must have done something wrong for all my relationships to have failed. To that, I nodded, told him he must be right, and left without a word.
Needless to say, I never spoke with him again, despite seeing him everywhere I went for the next few weeks.
I once went on a date with a guy I had only seen around campus. He seemed nice enough, so when he introduced himself to me and asked me to dinner and a movie, I happily obliged. During the course of dinner, I started getting the impression that he was slightly less than normal.
Some of the getting-to-know-you questions he asked were just a bit off-base. He caught me totally off-guard asking questions such as “What do you look for in a significant other?” and “What kinds of activities did you do with your last boyfriend?” He proceeded to inquire about what kinds of things I did for fun with friends, and then badgered me about why I did different things with my ex-boyfriend than I did with my friends. It was rather awkward to me, but since I'd already agreed to go to the movie as well, I did.
Much to my surprise, the movie was one that he owned and we were going to watch it at his place. This seemed weird, but not dangerous as he and I lived in the same building, him only one floor above me, it turned out. Throughout the horrible b-rated love story, he analyzed the characters motives and gave vivid descriptions of what he would and would not like in a girl he was dating. At the close of the movie, I was desperately trying to find escape, but his questions did not cease.
I was trying to be tolerant, but he finally pushed me over the edge with “Why have all of your relationships failed?”. If that wasn't bad enough, when I awkwardly replied “Um, because they weren't meant to be,” he accused me of trying to “cop out” of the real answer and declared that I must have done something wrong for all my relationships to have failed. To that, I nodded, told him he must be right, and left without a word.
Needless to say, I never spoke with him again, despite seeing him everywhere I went for the next few weeks.
